Update: The wedding I wrote about under “Industry Standards” was last nite. I got lots of nice complements on the music (I did my regular rep), and the groom (the guy who wanted all those songs I didn’t know) tipped me $50. (I checked with him to make sure a mistake hadn’t been made, just in case.)
I didn’t want to spend the time and $$ tracking down all the songs (too many to memorize, and I don’t usually use sheet music anyway, and I don’t use it outdoors at all)…especially since the songs looked to be one-timers ….I’d probably never play them again. I thought it was more trouble than it was worth.
As I said in my response to Tony’s comment, I’m a believer in re-directing undesirables (or a conflict…like if I’m already scheduled) to other harpists because it shows several things 1- I’m not afraid of competition 2- I’m not desperate for work 3- I care that they get music they’re happy with for their wedding….and I think because of those things it makes a good impression to re-direct. If they are thinking I’m a last resort because they don’t know of any other harpist and later find out there are several…well, that would make me look bad.