Saul- I do agree with you. Her personal life is none of my business, and I don’t want it to be. I do however feel that a teacher should have an open enough relationship with their students. If a student comes forward with concerns about their learning environment (in a vague, non abrasive way), I think the teacher should be able to say: “hey, sorry I’m being a bit psycho. I’ve got some stuff going on right now, so if you could try to be patient when I am going nuts, I’d appreciate it.” Or something equally simple and professional that shows that they are dealing with things as well as they can.
In terms of the other teacher… No. The Music Department is undergoing huge budget cuts, and they’ve already hired new accompanist to accommodate my needs. Oh, and to accommodate a bassoonist who is in the same position I am. No one already on staff could play our music for recitals or juries.
An update on the situation: Since that dramatic ordeal in my studio class, she’s been putting in effort to fix the situation. In the last week especially things have gotten better. I no longer feel an urgent need to approach her about this. We discussed my recital, my next set of competitions, and Grad Schools in depth during my lesson. It was a really good lesson.
I am concerned that she might relapse into the old way though. But, I have decided that I will take the good and ignore the bad. I have two other teachers that I have a fantastic relationship with. One is intimidating because of his fame/career history/school he teaches at but at the same time unbelievably inspiring. He is only intimidating because of his expectations. Otherwise he is the friendliest guy I know, and a great mentor. My piccolo teacher shows me nothing but love and support.
And before I forget, thank you for all of your words thus far. Even though this is a harp forum (and I am only a hobbyist in that regard), your professional wisdom as a student/teacher/musician has been very helpful to a developing flutist.
If you have anything else, please feel free to post. I’m not trying to close the thread, but rather show my gratitude. 🙂
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