Frustrating peers

[Saul Davis Zlatkovski]

There are also cultural differences in how people speak that one might not be aware of, so it is generally a good principle to give others the benefit of the doubt, and ask them to clarify their tone or response. For example, if a Scandinavian-cultured person asks you to go somewhere, and you say, “Well,” meaning you want to consider it, they will interpret that as a no. Jewish people argue vividly and interrupt each other or comment as one is talking, and there are set patterns of argument as well. So, best not to jump to conclusions. If someone is even talking to you at all, then they probably like you.

[unknown-user]

I’ve been tempted on the smacking thing. =_=

I’ve pretty much given him the cold shoulder now. I have no more patience for dealing with him!

— Natalie

[unknown-user]

He most certainly does know how to irritate me. He seems to have a crush on me and I feel the opposite for him. He must be into abusive relationships and anger issues. ;P

— Natalie

P.S. I’m a really sarcastic person, so take everything I say only half-seriously. 🙂

[unknown-user]

I’ve had to say virtually the same thing on more than one occasion. I just think the harp is so unique and rare that people haven’t a clue how it works. I try to be polite for the most part, but there are times you have to just shoot them down to get them to shut up and actually HEAR the words you’re saying!

[unknown-user]

Mr. Anonymous has no cultural excuse, he’s as American as I am. We actually have very similar family backgrounds.

We’re exact opposites in personality: He LOVES cars and driving, I have a fear of driving and can’t tell a car apart from a truck, etc, etc

But we ARGUE the same exact way, we both won’t let a point go and won’t back down from a debate. So when you bring to opposite personalities into an argument and neither will shut up it ends up in absolute frustration.

I’ve given this tons of thought, and for now I’m just leaving him be. It may be cold but ignoring him is all I can do for now. If this persists I’ll talk to him, but until I must I’d rather not.

— Natalie

[Saul Davis Zlatkovski]

Well it sounds to me like you are great friends, or could be, you just need to learn how to listen to or accomodate each other. Express your feelings and see what happens. After all, being opinionated is not a bad thing. You should learn how to handle other people’s opinions without feeling hurt.

[unknown-user]

That is very true. Although I don’t know how to avoid feeling irritated by him, he just has that sort of effect on me… Ever have someone who just drove you up a wall, although they’ve done nothing wrong?

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