Mean girls are usually mean girls because they learned the bullying behavior on their mother’s knee and were never corrected. The behavior was accepted by the parent, encouraged by her, and passed on to the next generation. Sad, but true.
The best way to deal with bullying women, whether it’s the twisted gossip of a neighbor or nastiness in harp circles, is a policy of total avoidance. Sooner or later, the truth will get out.
The older I get, the more I have been able to “thank God in all things.” There are no bullies in the Kingdom of Heaven, and if by God’s grace I manage to land there, there are certain people I will not have to put up with any longer when that fast-growing cancer or whatever strikes, and in that release of this world’s bullies is a real sense of peace, somewhere off in the future, when the battle is over. One can then smile again, with a sense of relief.